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Be Careful What You Wish For. Bruiser.

Careful What You Wish For. Bruiser.

Why You Should ALWAYS Check What You Wish For

I spend a lot of time on my own. It wasn’t a choice. It’s something I am getting used to.

As I don’t go out much, I recently started pining for a dog. I can’t manage a dog, so I know its dream stuff, but I miss the dogs I had. I miss their personalities and I miss their company. If I’m honest I miss the security they gave me when I was outside too.

I suppose I was thinking about the need to feel safe when I leave my home.

I had a German shepherd called Bruno and my daughter’s dog Bruiser living with me for years and years. In 2016 I had to put Bruno down (he dislocated his hip) and then in 2018 I moved in here and Bruiser went to live with my daughter who’d, by then, sorted herself out somewhere more secure to live.

As you can imagine Bruiser is now getting on and coming up to his fourteenth birthday. His life with my daughter has been busy and he’s loved it. He has two human siblings now and I doubt he misses Bruno and me too much. He gets long walks in the woods, a lovely nature reserve, every day and lots of attention from the children.

However, he is exhibiting strange behaviour as my grandson is learning how to use the potty. Bruiser has decided to also start peeing around the house.

Bruiser is a mastiff rottie cross and not a small dog. My daughter called me earlier today, almost in tears, the school called so she had to pick up my granddaughter who is feeling rough after her flu vaccination last week. On arrival home she discovered the dog had urinated all over the laminate floor.

She slid in through the front door into the hall still holding the littlest one and managed to just stop the other child, already feeling ill, from slipping over in it too. I laughed as she explained that she looked around and couldn’t see one surface which was dry enough to place them.

Eventually she got in and cleaned up, but it was everywhere. Discovering it all over her sofa- bed was the last straw.

Now Bruiser had been out for his walk and usually has a good degree of control. He has never snapped at anyone or given us reason to be wary but this behaviour is bizarre and then he did something strange. He jumped up and knocked off a knife from the kitchen side. A meat knife.

It was done on the quiet too. If she hadn’t re-entered the kitchen and seen it on the floor, before the children, it could have been disastrous. It’s a no brainer. The dog is showing signs of challenging the grandson when it comes to food so there is a risk that his behaviour is becoming territorial generally. The dog gets put down or he comes to me.

I must admit, I was thinking about a dog. I wasn’t thinking about the realities of a dog just the lovely little things…the company, his soft fur and cuddles etc. I was not thinking about walking him, picking up his poo, the dog hairs everywhere or the smell. Don’t get me wrong, me and Bruiser go back a long way and I love him to bits, but I know I’m going to cleaning up after him. That’s the responsibility of the owner living in a built-up area.

Like many elderly mammals, Bruiser is no exception, he is getting grumpy. He has been a loyal and fantastic dog over the years but now his mind and body is going. He deserves the respect and room he needs; it would be cruel and perhaps dangerous to ignore it. Also, from my grandson’s aspect the freedom to pottie train without the dog in his bits every few minutes would also be nice.

Obviously, the main reason Bruiser is coming to me is that there’s no one else to take him and I know him, and we are not ready to put down a good dog (a usually good dog) just because he is old and being a pain in the arse.

I still remember the day my daughter brought him around to see me. He was so small that he fitted into a little black hat and you could hardly see him. Now he is still as black as the darkness night, but he is huge and is essentially having a pissing contest with his owner’s son lol.

Anyhow, I wished for a dog and hey presto, I’m getting one. I’m looking forward to the company and really hoping that his bladder hasn’t gone as bad as mine otherwise we will be a sorry pair. Hopefully, it is just behavioral and a good rest away from his home will do everyone good.

I know my daughter is certainly looking forward to getting him out of the house – she said it so he could hear “It’s Nanny’s or the local Chinese”.

Picture of a dog and a cat together.
Bruiser and old cat of ours, Misty. They were the best of friends.

Thanks for reading.

By Sam J Harris

We are the sum of ourselves.

9 replies on “Be Careful What You Wish For. Bruiser.”

Well done Samantha! First I hope and pray your granddaughter is on the mend quickly now and will be feeling herself pronto! Yes; wishes do sometimes come true, or shall I say things have a way of working out for the better with some hope, courage and faith. Some people would have figured Bruiser is Cruising for a Bruising but that lot usually don’t think much or properly anyway! Your attachment to Bruiser is touching and you’re obviously an adoring fan of dogs just like I am for pretty much the same reasons. I’m glad you both can give it a go and with your insightful caring intelligence I’m certain it will be a win/win, sort of like two peas in a pod, or a match made in heaven!
Really; my prayers are with all involved and first of all, things will be so much better for your daughter and grandchildren now, but, I have a feeling Bruiser will be so happy again feeling so special with such a special mum which will be filling your lives with so much companionship, friendship and joy, while being able to just chill-out sharing some real peace and quiet together!
Regarding the idea of Bruiser now being a pisser due to elderly affairs or incontinence; I really pray its all as you wisely suspected due to territorial behavior issues and will end as quickly as it began, but, if it doesn’t I over a dozen years ago I had a female dog that when she hit about 14 couldn’t control her bladder and after my own study of these issues and conferring with the dogs Vet it became apparent that medication was required. I’m more of an organic naturopathic minded person with myself and my dogs wherever possible and so I found a formula that was drug free and all natural that actually worked like a miracle cure for my dog at the time almost immediately, and, the main component was extracted from bovine ovaries of all things, I suppose chemically it was boosting estrogen or something to that effect. There were no side effects or dangers that many of the steroidal drugs and other such powerful medications can cause for an aged dog. The name of the product back then escapes me at the moment but no matter, because I went to the same distributor online a few years ago and they didn’t carry that one any longer, but, had another all natural product which looked great component wise, not the bovine ovaries extract but all natural botanical substances which the company promised works wonders like the other did; and, because it seemed another elderly dog of mine needed to be treated I tried it and it worked. That product is called simply. “Incontinence” manufactured by Resources by Vet Classics, and sold by “Only Natural Pet,” in I believe Colorado, USA. I just wanted to mention all of this now in case I forgot and in the remote chance your Bruiser isn’t just experiencing a behavioral reaction of some kind; then this way you can look into it all. I’m a huge dog fan and have written about them at times as well as volunteered at local shelters helping them that way. Your story and Bruiser getting this great chance with you touched me so much, and, I want this to work out 100%! So I tend to carry on; and for now I’ll say a prayer for both you and Bruise while also doing the same for your entire family as they settle down to balancing things out again!
Will love to hear how well you are doing there with your good friend Bruiser!
God bless,

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Aww thank you Lawrence. I’m pleased to report that Bruiser is doing well and resting up loads. He did watch the door for something for a few hours but as soon as it was his dinner time he perked right up. So far so good and no pissing so I’m expecting it is behavioural – fingers crossed and thanks for the advice. I will look out for the non pharma version if it’s necessary. He will miss his walks but it will do us both good and he still gets a shuffle around the block a few times a day – lots of other dogs in my block so I expect there is some communication ‘doggy style’ pardon the pun going on there. He looks happy, although hot as I keep my place warm. He has an option to sit out on the balcony if he gets too warm though. It’s nice having him around. Thanks for your comments.

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Fantastic that all is well so soon and that was what I figured would be the case too; you did nail it as far as this difficulty he Bruiser had which came on so sudden and right at the party training situation of your grandson. Animals are smart and respond to circumstances the way they should with what they have to work with he thought he needed to make a statement or maybe got some green light from the boy to pee in the house because the dog saw the toilet as being in the house and pissing on it! Poor kid he got confused and the poor child had no idea how his own good behavior and training would trigger the doggie! I smile because they are all doing fine and this is all just part of living life as we humans do! Learning and adapting; so now Bruiser is adapting to a very straight forward lifestyle and with someone that has the best of standards, rules and way of living that the dog can easily get accustomed to! Now the doggy lifestyle and the woman’s lifestyle are merging nicely being very compatible and secure! Jolly good show mate!

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He just ate the last of my egg and chips lunch! I turned my back for a moment… I need retraining. I’ve had news that Grandaughter is much improved today and grandson is still negotiating the pottie so all is well. My daughter is very appreciative and youre right the rest will do all parties good. Like we’ve both said before, so much madness being shoved at us, it’s nice to know how much we all appreciate the little things in life and how much joy they bring us – along with the annoyances lol.

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You really said it well again! So good to hear that everything is working out as hoped and all involved have regained a good balance or equilibrium! I’d say all should thank the good grand mum who saw so well into things and had a custom tailored solution readymade to boot! I’m sure they all are quite thankful and feel he love; and I would venture to say poor doggie Bruiser is feeling so much love and understanding in his heart that he’s showing i in so many happy doggie ways each waking moment! Yes you’re also right about how even in the midst of chaos we can always find joy in the little things; ha’s what my dogs have always done for me to be frank about it! They keep us people grounded much of the time and I tend to get sheer happiness by just simply relating to the dogs in a simple real and playful way; I guess one could say I’m like the saying goes; “going to the dogs around here!” Hey why not get a bit simple and happy because this all reminds me about my current article and how I have to get back to it to amend a bit; the question being, why are so many people in lofty places or with authority over so many others behaving so badly? Do they need new homes too? Might some retraining like the potty thing be in order for many spoiled adults be what’s missing? Maybe these certain adults have gotten away with too much for too long running amuck an pissing on all of us and making a mess wherever they please? Seems that way as long as they get boat loads of cash, “who gives a rat’s ass” they figure about the rest! Humanity needs to wake up fast is all I can say!
Thanks for bringing up this “annoyance” when you did because it served as a special reminder about behavior; human kind! I guess we should really thank your grandson and good old Bruiser; they kind of helped without even trying perhaps! Adults try too hard sometimes! There’s really something to be said for letting things take their natural path or course!

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Absolutely Samantha! And, what we can correctly classify as some Real Pissers are running rampant pissing where and on whomever they please; yet not even a slap on the wrist when what some deserve is a belt in the mouth, what most here term a knuckle sandwich! I never advocate violence but these minions of darkness are being allowed to foment or build the tension to a huge crescendo and if not checked will no doubt cause mayhem when the right moment comes. You know about the water passing under the dam analogy or passing the buck (pound sterling) sort of thing; where else can all of this end up but in a sad place?
I believe in full accountability and transparency which oddly enough Obama ran on for a platform to be president!!! I also believe everyone should carry their own weight if healthy or fit and should pay as they go not con their way to the top of the heap; unless truly impaired! Conning to the top was exactly what Obama did and even got a Nobel Prize for it; go figure, though it makes sense in such a convoluted world system where what was once proper and right is now stupid and wrong and what was once despicable and grossly wrong is fine and dandy now and up on a pedestal; say like young women getting an abortion and then having an abortion party to celebrate! What are they celebrating their possibility of going to hell for eternity? Sorry; sometimes I think aloud and just see so many injustices it can’t be contained; oh the hypocrisy is too much to bear!
This is when my pets or dogs come in so perfectly directing my attention onto such peaceful simple beings that just want to live the way they were created or intended to!

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