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Real Women’s Equality Please? (Article)

We understand don’t we? Oh yes we understand inequality only too well.

There is so much to be done for women in medical terms but somehow women are dying younger and they are dying of preventable illnesses.

The medical profession is still unsure of our anatomy – blimey.

Did you know women have a prostate gland attached to the bladder just like men but for some reason they are still arguing as to what is it to be named so it is referred to as Skene gland. But does the same thing in women as men…yep.


In ignorance most women do not know they have this gland in fact most doctors don’t – also they do not know what it does in women because all the research and trials are done on men, and female prostate cancer is rare. Or so they tell us.

Did you know that the clitoris was only mapped out anatomically in 2009 yep that is just ten years ago…and is not in many medical books yet. …WTF??

I say it’s an important muscle or maybe even organ, as it wraps around the vaginal tube. As it is muscle it may help to protect the vagina, so the stronger the clitoris is perhaps the stronger the vagina and less chance of prolapse after child birth? Who knows? No one knows? Why? Because there has been no research.

Problems after child birth are common, especially with only being allowed in hospital for a few hours and then off you go home. More women suffer from prolapse now than ever before. Why? Because even though common sense says women should rest after pushing like buggery, there is no research to prove it. So they are encouraged to get moving immediately.

Basically, doctors don’t know women. They haven’t progressed much with us at all.

This really angers me. What the feck have they been doing for last few centuries????

One of the worse things is I can’t even complain that it is men that are the problem. Quite frankly women have been doctors for years and obviously like the status quo. In fact one of the most shocking smear examinations I ever had was by a female.

I mean this is England in 2019. We have had a national health system for decades now and it’s had a lot of money so how are we not understanding that women are half the population and deserve the same treatment as men?

Don’t even get me started or heart or lung care for women in the UK. A man goes into A&E clutching his chest and gets all the necessary advice and treatments. A woman goes into A& E clutching her chest and she’s asked if she is anxious. Even if it is proven she has a heart condition she will not get the same treatment.

This is unjust, this is unequal.

There is no research for the UK but I did find this great video regarding the problems faced for women trying to get treatment in the US

I suspect doctors don’t realise the extent of the ignorance. I know that most of mine don’t. I would never have been fitted with mesh tape right across my poor clitoris if more doctors knew where it was or it’s importance.

The healthcare profession owes it to themselves to get back in control with fact based, properly researched medicine. Just one trip to ResearchGate makes me feel nothing is being done – if anything it is getting worse.

Like the paper regarding women’s pain levels after hysterectomy…which I don’t think even deserves the paper it may have been written on. And if it was were, where was the control? I suspect men would also feel weepy and want pain relief after losing a major organ too.

At what point are women’s equality groups going to start doing something other than moan about minority women’s rights or gay women’s rights? This medical health situation affects all women and is truly an equality issue.

 I live in hope.

Added 1st October 2019.http://www.europarl.europa.eu/RegData/etudes/STUD/2019/634444/EPRS_STU(2019)634444_EN.pdf

Now I’m Cooking! Kind of a Disability Review of my New Cooker.

My New Cooker for my New Flat  –  Zanussi Ceramic Cooker

My new cooker is shiny and modern. It is electric because there is no gas allowed in my block and no gas runs to the flats themselves. I was exceptionally happy to have it delivered. Pleased, because it was second cooker I’d ordered in a month.

I’d waited patiently for the first one. You know what it is like. At first living off take outs and microwave food until it arrives isn’t so bad. I had made it clear when I ordered the item that I lived in a high rise, but it was all level access with two working lifts to my floor and electronic doors.

Of course, I would be lying if I didn’t admit that I was disappointed when the delivery driver called me and asked me to come down sixteen floors and collect it.

He claimed his firm’s insurance only covered them to deliver to a normal house. I said there was no way I could come and get it myself with my wheelchair and without a trolley. I asked him politely to consider bringing up the cooker anyway but no it wasn’t allowed. The trolley had to stay at ground level. So, the oven got sent back.

I waited six days for the money to be refunded before I could order another oven. To be fair I was getting really fed up of microwave meals and cuppa soups by this stage. I had moved into my new home and not yet been able to cook a decent meal. I was staying positive knowing my microwave misery was about to end, at last, with the delivery of my new super, double oven, ceramic hob cooker.

I waited patiently for the second cooker to arrive. I pulled out the old Argos cooker. What a piece of shit. The sticker, on the back of the oven said it was two years old and good for another eight. I had disconnected it the moment I had moved in. When I had pulled it out of its position to disconnect it, I was shocked at it’s open back. I disconnected it safely, there were scorch marks all up the back of the oven and the cable sheaving was also heat damaged. I cleaned the area the new cooker was going into.

When the doorbell rang, I could hardly contain myself. I’d already taken out the first frozen meal I was going cook in the new oven out of the freezer. Sautéed potatoes with creamy leak and onion sauce on chicken. The delivery was going well, the new cooker made it all the way up to my floor, then into my kitchen without incident.

The delivery man, a young man in his early twenties stood in my kitchen and wouldn’t go as I had not paid for the connection of the cooker. I assured him I was perfectly capable and was in fact actually qualified as I held City & Guilds electrical installation qualifications with distinctions. He still just stood there. I told him it was fine for him to take the old cooker and go…but no he just stood there looking awkward.

Eventually I said, “My son will be back from work later and he’ll help me connect it all up.”

This did the trick. I was left with my new cooker, which I during unwrapped and connected up. It wasn’t an easy job, awkward as a buck, but it was done within a couple of hours – a healthier electrician would have done it sooner I expect but it is still good to know I can save myself a little cash when I can.

My new cooker, with it’s ceramic hob and double oven feature looks stunning. It slotted in just nice with under a cm either side. It’s black and silver design is sleek and easy to wipe down. The smaller, top oven saves time and money as it’s less space to heat up. For one meal this is perfect and as yet,  I have only used the bottom oven when I have guests.

I’ll be honest. It was a compromise taking a flat without gas supply because I wouldn’t’ be able to take my gas cooker with me. I wasn’t sure I was going to gel with an electric cooker, but I’ve gotten used to the ceramic heating system very quickly and would say once you have adjusted your cooking style to suit it’s great.

Zanussi was my choice and I haven’t been let down. It cooks things super-fast and is easy to look after and wipe down. It comes apart for cleaning which is always an added bonus. It has a warning light on the hob the whole time it remains hot – just in case you forget that you just used the hob and it’s still hot but doesn’t look it.

It’s “A” efficiency so I feel that I am not wasting energy every time I cook just for one. All in all, I love my Zanussi cooker and would recommend anyone changing from gas over to ceramic and going for a top oven grill feature. Another noted benefit, for disabled people who are independent, is the top oven’s accessibility – I can open and put things in and out of it easily whilst sat in my wheelchair.

Regarding connecting the cooker, I can do it myself – safety first folks – always treat electric with respect. Never attempt to connect anything to the electric supply unless you know what you are doing. Always employ someone qualified when dealing with electric.

Are Women’s Rights in England being Torn Apart by Cultural Sensitivities?

Every day I watch women dig deep to just try and keep the advances we’ve made. It is a war. We are the largest minority. Our ranks are broad across all boundaries, borders, seas and mountains as well as every colour and culture. I always thought I lived in the country where I was equal to the men who lived here, I’ve kidded myself for years that by being British I am treated exceptionally well as a woman in my own country and we are, pretty much, equal.

These important equality laws that demand female and male be given the same rights are being broken. It seems that ‘cultural sensitivities’ are allowed to navigate around them. These laws which we are bound to uphold are seemingly not so important if the provision of service is supplied by someone claiming ‘cultural sensitivities’.

I’ve become interested in the housing law in our country, it seems that the equality act 2010 is being misrepresented. It isn’t just for race. This law stands to ensure that women and men are treated equally. After reading through the Chartered Institute of Housing for England and Wales I’m extremely concerned for the women of England and Wales as according to advice on the site – a lot of which is outdated – equality of women is not an issue. Well, it is.

I’m referring to a case of a young woman who entered into a housing tenancy with her partner. They had been waiting together as a couple for years on the housing register whilst living at his parents. After a very long wait and numerous interviews and proof of need they were eventually offered a lovely flat in Borehamwood, Hertford.

After viewing the couple met with the landlord to sign the tenancy.  As they went to sign the young woman noticed that her partner had put down as main tenant and that her name was put down underneath. My friend immediately pointed out what she thought was an error and that there were meant to be joint tenants as they were joint applicants.

The response was that is how they did it and that she would still have the same rights as her partner. During the viewing my friend hadn’t wanted to assert herself too much as the gentleman showing them around wasn’t able to look at her in the eye and she realised that she needed to be culturally sensitive to his obvious embarrassment at talking to her at all.

This sounds all well and good until last year when this young couple fell out of love and started arguing about who has the flat. The young woman, classed as vulnerable, has to leave as it is his flat and she is only living there at his will.

The circumstances of the individuals in this couple are very different. The man’s family home and other members of his close family are around the corner. He and other members of his family work for a large bank outside of the area. Whereas the young woman has essentially lost both her parents, has no family at all in the area and works locally and has done so for years.

This charitable community housing association called Tamil Housing Trust and also known as Tamil Community Housing Trust are updating their website but currently their profile, including the purpose to “provide quality homes and excel in the provision of culturally sensitive services for the Tamil community and other refugees and migrants through self-help and empowerment.”  also have some objectives such as “Do what matters most to residents” is available to view at http://www.tamilhousing.org.uk.

There is another statement about building TCHA’s capacity to respond to changes in the housing sector whilst considering the changing needs and aspirations of the community. This one I found particularly interesting as the woman’s needs suddenly changed when her boyfriend threw her out.

As they had joined the housing register together and both worked and both paid rent and shared the financial responsibility of the flat, she believed and was flatly told she had equal rights of occupation. However she has since been told that as her male partner is the main tenant, it is his flat and she will have to leave. It seems that Tamil Housing Trust lied to her and she does not have equal rights.

She has been to the Citizens Advice Bureau and been advised to start the housing application again as she doesn’t have any rights in this case. It is her that has to leave as her partners name is down as the main tenant. It hardly seems fair that a young woman who has worked in the area for years has to leave and apply again to be allowed to join the housing register whilst the man gets to keep the flat.

Statements seemingly harmless in nature by being so ambiguous along with their insistence that my friends partner go down as main tenant and she go down as his tenant gathers more meaning. Is it that in Tamil society a woman isn’t allowed to own property or have the lease in her name? Of course not, so why make a young British girl be homeless because the man who showed them around their property was culturally unable to view her as an equal?

They own 324 housing units across twelve London boroughs. They claim, “to provide high quality homes at affordable rents and offer culturally sensitive care and support services primarily to Tamil people on low incomes and with the greatest need in an economical, efficient and cost effective manner.”

They do not have anything relating to diversity or equality within their company profile and this worries me. The board is not diverse. This is providing housing for our most vulnerable people. They should be following laws not ambiguous ideals.

It appears to me that Tamil Housing do not ‘do what matters most to residents’ as they already made it very clear that they do what matters most to appease men rather than helping the young and vulnerable women of our country.

We need to stand up for our women’s rights. ce(/[a-z]/